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Beyond the 'Man Box' with Uju Asika, speaking on BRAVE NEW GIRLS podcast.

“I have a lot of faith in the next generation. Obviously, I've written about How we can raise boys who do better, how we can bring up kids who are kinder. But I see it already. I see the next generation there, they think differently from a lot of us, how we were growing, what we were taught growing up.

They don't hold on to a lot of those negatives. They tend to be a lot more open, they're a bit more radical in the way that they think. They're ready to make changes, and so I have a lot of faith in them. And I think for, it's for us to listen to them and to support them as well. I think that's what we can do as the elders.” Uju Asika Author.

Uju Asika is the author of Bringing up Race, and her latest book Raising Boys who do Better. She speaks on topics such as race, intersectionality and anti-racist parenting. Formerly a journalist Uju has featured across mainstream media, including Good House Keeping, Marie Claire, Good Morning Sunday and Woman’s Hour.

Raising Boys Who do Better is a hopeful guide to raising a new generation of boys who are able to embrace their true selves. In other words, boys who are free from the constraints of the ‘Man Box’ and who can be kinder, more compassionate to themselves and others, conscious and accountable. It’s a call to parents, educators and anyone who cares about the boys in their lives and the men they will become. We can all do better.

Raising Boys for a Fairer Society and a Sustainable Planet

As parents and responsible citizens, our goal isn't just to raise our children; it's to cultivate a generation that stands for equity, justice, and environmental stewardship. The role of boys and men in our society is paramount in these endeavors, and their upbringing can be a game changer in steering our world towards a more equitable and sustainable future.

1. Fostering Equality and Empathy from Early Age

To achieve a fairer society, we must first address the deeply ingrained prejudices and biases that exist. Teaching our boys to recognize, challenge, and debunk these stereotypes will be the first step in dismantling systems of oppression. We must instill in them the values of empathy and respect for all individuals, regardless of gender, race, or socioeconomic status.

Boys should be encouraged to communicate openly about their feelings, experiences, and fears. They must be taught to value relationships, not based on dominance or power dynamics, but on mutual understanding and trust. By doing so, we will be nurturing men who can actively challenge toxic masculinity, bridge divides, and foster unity.

2. Equitable Participation in Household and Care Duties

Traditionally, caregiving and household responsibilities have been the realm of women. As stewards of a fairer society, we must normalize boys and men participating in these roles. Encouraging our sons to take part in daily chores, caregiving, and community service helps break down gender barriers and creates a society where responsibilities and privileges are shared equitably. 

3. Raising Environmental Stewards

We are at a pivotal point in addressing global environmental challenges. Raising boys who are conscious of their environmental footprint and who understand the importance of sustainable living is critical. They must be educated about the dire consequences of continued neglect and be empowered to take actionable steps, both big and small.

Engaging boys in outdoor activities, teaching them the importance of conservation, and fostering a sense of wonder and respect for the natural world can all play a role in raising environmentally responsible individuals. 

4. Leading by Example

Children often mirror the behaviors and values of the adults around them. As parents and role models, it's essential to walk the talk. Demonstrating equitable behavior at home, advocating for justice in our communities, and practicing sustainable habits are all ways we can reinforce these values in our boys.

5. Engaging in Community and Civic Responsibilities

It's essential for boys to understand their role in the broader community and the importance of civic engagement. Participating in community service projects, understanding the value of voting, and respecting the rule of law are just a few avenues to foster this understanding.

In Conclusion

Raising boys who champion equity, justice, and sustainability is both a responsibility and an opportunity. By instilling these values early on, we not only set our boys up for individual success but also move our society closer to a just and sustainable future. As parents, and as stewards of both society and the planet, this is the legacy we can and must leave behind.

 PS. Listen HERE to Uju’s journey on BRAVE NEW GIRLS podcast to hear how she helps us help the planet.